The Secret to Upgrade Your Life, Happiness & Success

by | Aug 1, 2018 | Blogs

Do you like an upgrade?

Have you ever been on a long haul flight or journey where you’ve been offered a complimentary upgrade to first/business class or something equivalent?

Maybe free tailoring & adjustments on a suit or outfit?

Drinks or your meal on the house?

It’s an amazing feeling isn’t it but I have a question for you…is it time to give your life an upgrade?

As a High Performance & Life Coach London, something all my clients have in common whether they are Entrepreneurs, Leaders or hungry & ambitious achievers is they are seeking to upgrade at least 1, 2,3,4 or all areas of their life.

(I analyse myself every month & have put an update of my latest standards below)

I mean a REAL upgrade that they directly influence themselves.

I’m talking an upgrade in their happiness, in their business, their success, unleashing their best and maximising their potential.

Other times, progress towards their personal mission/vision or milestones, bettering their relationships, becoming stronger/fitter & healthier and ultimately living an emotionally rich & extraordinary life.

It’s very easy to set goals & visions in these areas where we get lost, overwhelmed and sometimes ever set goals for the wrong reasons that we don’t end up taking action and as a result, lose confidence and motivation.

When it comes to High Performance & maximising your potential, there is 1 secret many forget & are not aware of that is the very step that will take you from ordinary to extraordinary.

The secret at the focal point of todays read is ‘Your Standards’

During the early days of my coaching journey, one of my mentors would often remind me ‘You make your standards & your standards make you

In that moment I completely underestimated the power of these words that were so elegantly strung together but the truth is that if you want to understand who someone is to their core, start by looking at their standards.

Because your standards are the foundation upon which you stand and build your life/business on.

If you really want to maximise your potential, increase your impact and live an extraordinary & rich life, become very aware of the standards you have chosen to live by.

Standards such as:

  • Your personal standards & how you treat yourself
  • Your Health & how well you look after your wellbeing
  • Your relationships & how you treat others
  • Your career/business & your level of commitment
  • Your Personal Mission
  • Your mindset/thinking & emotional management
  • Family & social
  • & Much More

(I analyse myself every month & have put an update of my latest standards below)

Standards vary from person to person & industry but if you look at and study any of the leaders of the past & today, they all had made one powerful decision that laid the foundation of their success…. That is

they held themselves to the highest standards.

I’m a big fan of Muhammad Ali, one of the worlds greatest boxers of all time and he famously said “I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion”

You can imagine the standards he held himself to every single day. He woke up like a champion, ate like a champion & trained like a champion.

As a result, he became a champion.

Now back to you, are your standards currently serving you or holding you back?

I guarantee you if there is an area of your life or business you want to breakthrough or transform, one of the key areas I always like to start with are your standards.

What standards are you committed to changing that would serve you powerfully?

What standards will you adopt? What changes will you make?

Importantly, how will you now ensure you consistently follow through on your standards?

Exercise: Pick at least three new standards you would like to introduce in to your life that will make a real difference & impact if consistently acted upon.

Your task, yup you guessed it is to now consistently practice your new standards because as a great man once taught me ‘You make your standards and your standards make you’

I myself review and update my standards on a monthly basis to ensure I am being my very best for myself & my clients.

Below are a list of my new standards:


  • I will only work with clients I am inspired by & that are playing the game of life to do and be more for others and the world around them.
  • Every day I will ask myself how I can add move value, exceed expectations and blow the minds of my clients & the world around me I am privileged to serve.

Personal Growth

  • I will work on my mindset, thinking & focus every single day through reading books and visualizing my goals.
  • I will work with the best of the best, life coaches, personal trainers, health strategists or any other area I choose to grow and develop in.
  • I will dedicate myself to the most extraordinary daily rituals & routines
  • I will speak my truth and stand true to my values every day in every way!
  • I will read 1 book every week to 10 days
  • I will read one book on High Performance every month


  • I will master my health by exercising every single day and being a model of excellence by exercising and moving my body daily.
  • I will eat the best and most nutritious food for my body that is largely alkalised, plant based and water rich foods, greens, salads while enjoying the other foods I love in moderation.


  • I will only spend time with others that bring the best out of me & me bring the best out of them, are aligned with my vision & don’t settle/demand the best out of themselves daily.
  • I will deepen the relationships I have with my loved every week by putting dedicated time aside


  • When I drink, I will only drink the best whiskies and wines I love

So what will you now do, what are your standards moving forwards?

I hope you enjoyed todays article and I would love to hear what you personally took and will implement moving forwards! Comment below and i’ll respond to you as soon as I can.

Here’s to your continued success & if there is anything I can do to serve or support yourself and/or your business or if you have any questions about my latest article then please feel free to reach out to me here or at [email protected].

Live Empowered,

Your friend and coach, 

Raghav Parkash